Vision, Touch, Sound…

Think for a moment…

If we see these things in other people, and express them ourselves in body movements

Then we know what they feel like, too.

We know what it feels like to raise our arms, smile, jump up and down, say ‘WOW!’ in Joy. We experience it

Through all our senses. We manufacture the symbols through all our senses. The brain doesn’t only

Recognise these symbols, it makes them too. Makes them in movement,

makes them in sound, makes them in paintings

Listen to yourself for a moment…

Say the word ‘Oh’

With four different emotions:

Questioning

Disappointed

Joyful

frustration

Listen to how it sounds. four different shape profiles.

See how many more you can find. For

example, the staccato ‘oh oh’ of

Alarm, but there are

Subtle differences

Even here…

Try ‘oh oh’ meaning

‘heavens, it’s gone wrong again’, and then

meaning ‘don’t you dare!’

Different sound profiles

different sentic forms,

different emotions,

different body movements.

We tend to think of the sense of Feeling as being only one sense,

but in fact it is many – heat, cold, pain, soft touch, pressure…

Soft touch invites one to get closer.

When these nerve endings send their signals, it has the meaning of tenderness and reverence.

Try it. These are the tools we construct our emotions from. If there has been

some tension between you and your partner, and you

wonder where all that tenderness went,

this says you can have it back

any time you want.

Try it. Try a kiss. You may not feel like it… anger, frustration, whatever… these

are this feeling’s enemies. If you prefer them, stick with them, and

live with the pain they bring, but if you really want

the tenderness back, then try one of

these kisses. On the lips, or the

hand, or the neck from

behind.

But it must be gentle.

The softest possible, consistent with being felt.

Move softly and slowly, caressing your partner’s skin with your lips,

so lightly you hardly know you are there. Don’t jab, don’t peck,

and no lust. Just a long, lingering, exploring, and

infinitely light touch.

Resist the urge to

get closer. This is what this

sentic form demands, but resist it.

That will create longing

- for more.

What do you feel?

The old feelings are coming back?

For both of you?

Unless you left it too long

since the last kiss like this, the tenderness

will be back. You manufactured

it with your lips.

(And if you let it

develop into a different sentic

form - the form of passion, just

remember - I accept no

responsibility for

unplanned

children.)

Motion creates Emotion, as Tony Robbins says.

You can use these sentic forms to control your own emotional

state. Is that important or desirable? Well, he suggests we

consider the names Marilyn Monroe, Janice Joplin,

Jimmi Hendrix, John Belushi, Elvis Presley…

people who for most of us had everything – fame, money, prestige,

fans who adored them, families who loved them, the chance to be creative…

but they are all dead. And why? Because they did not know

how to control their emotional state. They tried

instead to control it with drugs.

The penalties for not knowing how to do this are terrible.

Broken relationships, broken businesses, broken lives. And the rewards

for being able to recreate tenderness, flip into a mood of happiness or relaxation

when needed are huge. And the key is easy – express the emotion

you want in the matching physical body movements, and

you will begin to feel it. Because, to a large

extent, that IS what an emotion is –

it is what you feel in your body

when you droop in

sadness, leap for joy,

kiss with tenderness.

Manufacture it, and your mood begins to change.

Continue to manufacture the body positions and movements

of your present mood, and it will not change.

From now on, you will only have the

emotions you choose to have.

It works.

Manic depressive patients were

tested with an alternative to their medication to see

if it would work. They smiled for 20 minutes any time

they wanted to be happy. And none of them

felt depressed while they were still able

to smile. This was then incorporated into

their treatment, with considerable success.

It works because the body

manufactures neurotransmitters and other chemicals

which sustain and elaborate the emotion the

movement of the body suggests.

You don’t believe it?

No faith in it?

But I bet you have faith in artificial chemicals

That try to do the same thing – aspirin, alcohol, tea, coffee, valium, prozac…

Strange, isn’t it?

Why should we have so much faith in chemicals which merely mimic

the action of chemicals naturally produced by the body to create emotional states, when

we can generate the production of the real thing in our own bodies?

Try it now.

Re-read the section on happiness and sadness, and

Get yourself in the sad position. How does it feel?

Talk slowly about something that really

interests you, without raising or lowering your voice in excitement?

You may not like it, but you will start to feel down.

Now reverse it. Shoulders back, stand up, move your arms

vigorously out to the sides, smile, and look in a mirror

- the chances are you will laugh too! Note

the feeling, note the body positions

and movements. Practice them

until you can call them up

any time you want!

Better still, buy Tony Robbins course – he’s a far better teacher than I am!